After nine months of unpaid “sales” work, a husband’s patience snapped when his wife refused to quit or help around the house.
The backstory and early dynamics
The husband’s wife began a 100% commission-based sales job nine months ago. At first, he was supportive — she seemed motivated, optimistic, and ready to build a new career.
But soon, reality hit. She wasn’t earning anything, and worse, she had to spend money to buy her own leads.
The moment things shifted
Over time, her “work” became an obsession. She’d spend 6–7 hours locked in her home office every day, listening to motivational talks and team calls from her “agent academy.”
Meanwhile, her husband was left juggling full-time work and their three kids. When he got home at noon, she’d disappear into her office until dinner, unavailable to help or even spend time with the family.
The final confrontation
After nine months of zero income — and negative profit — the husband finally snapped. He told her it was unfair that she expected him to handle all responsibilities while she contributed nothing financially or domestically.
But instead of seeing his point, she accused him of “not being supportive” of her dream.
The fallout
Now, tension fills the house. The husband feels drained and unappreciated, while his wife insists she’s “on the verge of success.” He doesn’t know whether to keep tolerating it or demand she face reality.
What Reddit Thinks
The majority of Reddit users sided with the husband — NTA (Not The Ahole)**.
Sample reactions:
- “NTA. It’s not a job if it costs you money and isolates you from your family — that’s a cult-like MLM.”
- “Nine months of zero income and she’s buying leads? Sounds like she’s being scammed.”
- “You’re not against her working. You’re against neglect and denial — and that’s valid.”
A few offered mixed takes, suggesting empathy if she’s genuinely trying to build something long-term — but even then, they agreed the balance at home was unfair.
A Final Thought
At what point does “supporting your spouse’s dream” cross into enabling self-delusion?
Sometimes love means cheering someone on — and sometimes it means telling them the truth.