A pregnant woman finally snapped after her brother-in-law repeatedly pushed unwanted dieting advice — and now she’s wondering if her sarcastic clap-back went too far.
The Backstory and Early Dynamics
The original poster (26F) is in the late stages of her second pregnancy. She and her husband (29M) already have a toddler nearing age three.
Her first breastfeeding experience was difficult, so this time she wants to focus on feeding, healing, and adjusting — not dieting.
Enter her brother-in-law (30M): a chronic yo-yo dieter.
He’s obsessed with whatever diet trend he’s currently following, and worse — he tries to recruit everyone around him to join. Despite her polite refusals and her husband repeatedly asking him to stop, he continued bringing it up when her husband wasn’t around.
She assumed it came from insecurity and brushed it off — until the day she couldn’t anymore.
The Moment Things Shifted
During a family visit, her husband stepped away for a minute — and her brother-in-law immediately went in.
He asked if she had researched ways to lose weight after the baby. She calmly told him she had no plans to diet and wasn’t worried about postpartum weight.
Instead of backing off, he doubled down — recommending restrictive dieting tips and claiming the weight would “fall right off” if she followed his rules. He even offered to “research” diets for her.
At this point, she was fighting the urge to snap.
The Final Confrontation
Finally done with the pressure, she delivered the line:
“I’ll be on the see food diet — I see food, and I eat it. I’ll be breastfeeding and starving, so I’ll eat whatever I want.”
Her sister-in-law giggled.
Her brother-in-law froze, visibly uncomfortable.
And the moment her husband returned, he got up and left abruptly to “walk the dog.”
The Fallout
She told her husband what happened. He laughed and said he’d talk to his brother (again).
She still feels a tiny bit guilty — not because he didn’t deserve the boundary, but because she knows his dieting obsession likely comes from insecurity.
Now she’s wondering: Was the sarcasm too much, or finally the boundary he needed?
What Reddit Thinks
Most commenters agree: She’s NOT the ahole.**
Likely vote: NTA
Example responses:
🗨️ “He crossed the line the moment he ignored ‘no.’ Sarcasm was earned.”
🗨️ “Pregnant or not — your body, your decision. He needs to mind his business.”
🗨️ “You set the boundary politely multiple times. This was the funny version.”
Some softer voices added:
🗨️ “He clearly struggles with body image. Still — that is NOT your burden.”
A Final Thought
A boundary isn’t rude just because someone didn’t like hearing it.
Sometimes the only way to make someone stop is to make the conversation uncomfortable — especially when they refuse to respect a polite “no.”
So what do YOU think:
Was the joke fair… or too harsh?