Why Is This Important?
As a parent it is your job to set your kids up for life, in terms of how they see the world, and how they see themselves. This is the most important thing, your children hear you so loudly as they are growing up.
So, you have to do the right things to ensure they see themselves well, and have positive views of themselves.
You can incorporate confidence building in games as you can see here; https://starthereparents.com/fun-games-boost-self-esteem/ or you can find ways to help build their confidence in day to day life.
Let’s look at 13 tips you can use to do this.
Helping Your Kids Gain Confidence.
How we interact with our children at the most basic level will influence how they interact with the world, and how they grow into adults. So, ensuring that they have a positive self view and have confidence is absolutely imperative.
#1. Appreciate All Efforts.
Never show a lack of appreciation if your kid does not do well. No matter whether they succeed or fail, always appreciate that they put effort in.
Show them that doing your best really does count.
#2. Encourage Practice.
Practice may not make perfect, but practice makes the master, and so, you want to help them build confidence by encouraging them to practice the things they enjoy. Even if it is not something you are interested in.
It helps them build confidence and individuality.
#3. Don’t Let Them Lean On You ALL The Time.
Letting your kids come to you when they face any challenge will hinder their success as they will develop the view that they don’t need to do it, and you will.
Show them how to deal with small problems on their own, they will feel proud when they overcome, and this will build confidence.
#4. Let Kids Be Kids.
Don’t force your kids to grow up too fast, let your kids be kids, let them play, be silly, and ask endless questions.
Kids take in information from you, so let them soak it all up like a sponge, they will learn faster and be confident as they grow up.
#5. Curiosity Is An Ingredient.
Encourage their curiosity, discovering the world around them, and being curious helps them learn and grow. Let them do this, and encourage it with all things.
#6. Give A Challenge.
Let your kids know that they can accomplish small things and big things, such as riding a bike, or reading a book all on their own.
Increase their responsibilities and help them realize they can accomplish these things.
#7. Stay Away From Expectations.
Expectations are a recipe for disaster and special treatment can also show a lack of confidence in one child. Being entitled doesn’t substitute confidence.
#8. Short-Cuts Are A No-Go.
Do not make short-cuts for them, as adults the easy way is often not the best way, so don’t teach them that it is. The harder it is to overcome something, the more confidence you get from getting past it.
#9. Criticism Won’t Help.
Nothing makes a child more likely to stop doing something than criticism. Give useful feedback, and use positive words, make suggestions, but never use negative words or put them down.
Your kid may be scared of failure because they are scared you will be angry, and they will stop trying and lose their confidence.
#10. Treat Mistakes As Ladders.
Don’t treat mistakes as failures, because this makes us relate to them as inherently being bad. Treat them instead, as opportunities to learn. We typically learn more from our mistakes than our successes.
This can help brew confidence.
#11. Welcome New Experience.
As parents, we are responsible for showing kids that there are new experiences out there, so our kids can cope in a big world.
Showing them new things, even scary things, shows them that even if something is new and scary, they shouldn’t quit.
#12. Don’t Tell Them If You Are Worried.
If you are worried, keep it to yourself. Children interpret our worry as us having no confidence in them, and thus makes them less confident.
#13. Give Praise When Dealing With Adversity.
Life is never fair, and we all have to learn this eventually. When our kids do come across difficulty, remind them that getting through these times makes us stronger, and that any journey to being successful will be met with setbacks.
Help them see that even when things are bad, they can persevere.